Undoubtedly, people you know, mix with, or work with are pretty much outgoing no matter what situation they are placed in. Naturally confident and comfortably social, they are a pleasure to be around and always seem in complete control. Quite an admirable quality, isn’t it?
But this is not you. When you meet new people or are thrust into situations outside of your comfort zone, you feel awkward and socially anxious. As for many of those confident and self-assured people, you might be surprised to know that they are not quite as natural as you might think. Sure, some people are just naturally confident, but, believe it or not, you too can make changes and start to become just like those people you currently envy and admire!
Like many life skills, confidence is an art that anyone can be taught and learn. These people are confident, and you are not because they have “learned” their confidence from an early age. They have experienced positive responses to their social skills and efforts (perhaps they have been praised or told they are funny at some point) and with each small reinforcement, their confidence and belief in themselves grew and grew.
Perhaps you were not so lucky and didn’t receive such a positive response? Maybe you were even laughed at or publicly criticized in front of friends and family?
Arguably worst of all, perhaps you were ignored or sabotaged when you did make an effort to act more outgoing and more confident? And what was the result of all this negative reinforcement? More than likely, you became more introverted, less outgoing, and suffered anxiety as well as low self-esteem.
Confidence is all a matter of perception and is most accurate within your mind! So many of the world’s best and most passionate speakers are terrified at public speaking and yet seem to pull off incredible speeches and presentations without a single sign of nervousness or fear.
The way you think and the beliefs you hold about yourself are a massive link to building self-confidence and self-esteem! If you can learn how to change these self-beliefs into much more positive images and reinforcements, then you too can seriously increase your levels of self-confidence!
So tell me how then!
Below are my 3 top confidence boosters and then an incredible learning tool that, when combined all together, will drive self-confidence to levels you have never before experienced!
1) Actually, learn and know what you are doing/talking about. It is impossible to project self-confidence when you genuinely don’t know what you are talking about or doing. Take the time to learn all you need to know about the skill or behavior you are trying to achieve, and you will then be naturally proficient and confident. Nothing brings confidence down than the knowledge you are not 100% on your topic or preparation!
2) Project your self-confidence! Like in the animal world, it is not always the most powerful creature that wins the fight in confrontations. Many of nature’s conflicts are settled before they even start by the behavior and the lesser creature's attitude. Strut your stuff and fake it until you make it!
I remember my very first speech in front of over nearly 200 executives of the business I was in at the time, and I was terrified! Nevertheless, I stuck out my chest, assumed a comfortable, confident position of strength, and told myself I would nail it. On the inside, I was on the verge of a breakdown, but I exuded confidence and self-belief on the outside. As a result, one of the executives in the room came up after the speech and told me how impressed he was with my presentation, which then led to a big promotion by his hand just a month later! See, it’s all about perception!
3) Practice, practice, practice! At every opportunity, speak up, volunteer, nominate yourself and take action while others meekly stand by and hope that no one chooses or notices them! Not only will this extra practice help to break down your fears, but it will also equip you by necessity to take the crucial steps in your development that lead to ultimate self-confidence!
Now, in conjunction with the confidence boosters above, that tool will give you the edge and make sure you can follow through…
This is where subliminal messages come in!
Subliminal messaging uses technology that accesses your subconscious mind naturally and safely, beginning a process of making gradual changes to your way of thinking. As you continue to listen, they will replace negative thoughts and beliefs with positive beliefs and grow the seeds of a confident personality.
Simply described, these subliminal messaging confidence boosters use brain entrainment to stop you from thinking about the negative thoughts and beliefs you currently hold. They then help you instill the beliefs and thought processes shared by those seemingly naturally confident people.
If you suffer from low confidence levels, can you imagine just how terrific it would be not to feel awkward and out of place, whether in social or work situations? Imagine having the supreme confidence to get out there and pursue the success you truly deserve?
Don’t wait any longer thinking that you are destined never to have self-confidence! Put into practice the above confidence boosters and take advantage of the subliminal messaging to win the confidence battle!