It seems like an easy scenario, but sadly the necessary yet straightforward skill of how to love yourself escapes many of us, and this is indeed a tragedy.
Whether we admit it or not, all human beings crave love and affection. We consciously and subconsciously look for love every day until we find it. Like moths to a flame, we are drawn to the possibility or chance that we may find the perfect dream that is love.
There is a significant obstacle to finding love in the way of many people, however. That roadblock is, in fact, a person's inability to know how to love yourself!
Yes, it’s true! No person in the world will genuinely and honestly experience true love without a good and healthy amount of self-love.
It's not the kind of “too good for you” and head up your butt self-love but a genuine appreciation and satisfaction of your true self and self-worth.
It means that you are comfortable in your skin, can look in the mirror and be happy, and know deep within yourself that you are a good person.
If you cannot look at yourself, so you know how to love yourself, how can you expect someone else? It will be your destiny to never fully open yourself up to and therefore receive the joy and fulfillment of true love that lasts the test of time.
In essence, I believe that healthy self-love is a lot like having confidence and good self-esteem. As I think about it, I believe that it is nearly the same thing when it comes to your opinion of yourself and your worth.
So with this in mind, let us work on increasing your self-confidence so you can truly love yourself!
Many people's inability to know how to love yourself or low self-esteem stems from an abusive or ill-meaning relationship with a partner or family member. You must do all you can to remedy that first and banish the demons they have left behind. Get down and analyze the issues to see if you can acknowledge they are untrue and unfounded.
Practice in front of a mirror the following potent technique and test. Look directly into the mirror and count backward from 10, looking at yourself right in the eyes and staring deep into your soul. If you cannot make it to 1, then remember what you were thinking about that made you turn away and focus on solving that problem. Once you have mastered the ten count, try and go backward from 20!
In learning how to love yourself, you should also practice relaxation and meditation techniques. Not only will these activities relax, invigorate and soothe your mind and soul, but the intent of clearing out your mind will ensure you are fully aware of what is bothering you and where you need to pay some attention. Knowing what our issues are is half the battle!
Ensure you make and maintain good eye contact with everyone you meet. Double your efforts in every interaction. You will be surprised at how good it makes you feel and be amazed at the number of people who break eye contact with you due to their issues!
Have an “attitude of gratitude.” It means being thankful for everything you do already have and appreciating everything and everyone around you.
Ensure you are in a space accepting of love sent your way. Don’t downgrade or disregard compliments, don’t belittle yourself or self-sabotage, and ensure you are open to all facets of love and friendship.
Understand and believe that you indeed are deserving of love! You are a truly unique and outstanding example of a human being! You have skills, traits, and abilities different from everyone else in the world!
Everyone wants to pair up with a confident and self-loving partner when it comes to relationships. Displaying this confidence and self-love attracts potential partners and ensures they are happier within the relationship and less likely to stray!
For some reason, the mind is constantly imposing limitations upon itself. For this reason, I believe it is an inbuilt challenge to make sure we continue to evolve and develop, that we must strive forward, and know in our hearts that we are worth something!
We all know that self-discovery is a lifelong process, but today, there is no better time to get started on the journey to a better you. Learning how to love yourself ultimately creates opportunities for love and success, and as a result, we become more confident, which breeds more and more love, success, and happiness.
Whether we talk individually about confidence, healthy self-love, or self-esteem matters not as they are all closely related in my book.
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